Surely no one wants to get divorced (well, aside from anyone with a vested interest in the “Kim’s Fairytale Divorce” sequel.) But what if an expert could tell you whether your marriage will last, within a few minutes of meeting you and your beloved? It might be possible. John Gottman—a marriage therapist featured in Macolm Gladwell’s bestselling “Blink”—claims that he can “thin-slice” a couple, predicting the fate of their union with incredible accuracy just by watching them. The secret: Your positive and negative emotional interactions with each other. Do you roll your eyes when he talks? Bad sign. Does he微笑当你讲故事时?好兆头!这完全是关于正确的平衡。“所有夫妻,快乐和不快乐,都有冲突,”戈特曼写道“,但争论期间的积极相互作用的比率是一个关键因素。”金比:5:1。五是五个积极, 那是!

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